PERSONAL OBSERVATIONS
Also see Thoughts to Ponder &
Principles for Life Management
It is only what I do that significantly affects my life. Others actions can hurt me, but my reactions to what they do can hurt me even more. More about this--Click Here!
You can’t get “self” esteem from other people. QB You build confidence and self esteem from within, by doing more and more things that you can succeed at.
We can become a victim with the help of others. But, we REMAIN a victim only through our own efforts. *
Be the person you want to be. When you are getting in your own way, think, “If I was the person I want to be, in the situation I am in now, what would I be doing?” This can help immensely.
When a person is acting badly, the person is feeling badly. * No matter what he tells you, when a person is acting bad, he is feeling bad. Understand that and don’t take it personally. Maybe even help him out if you can.
Your reactions are your biggest problem. But it is your own thoughts that you are reacting to. * You believe you are reacting to what someone (else) does. This is NOT true. You react to your thoughts about what he does. You most often have missing information. Before you react to someone’s actions, check out which of your own thoughts you are reacting to.
If I do not control my life (in a civilized way) then other people will try to control it for me. *
People only tell you about themselves. * Don't take it personally, it isn't. When someone says, “Your are a bastard.” he is not telling you about you, he is telling you about himself, what he thinks, and obviously he doesn’t know who you really are.
When you can’t decide, flip a coin. If the coin comes up “wrong”, and you get that “Oh, no, I’ll do two out or three” feeling you have a better clue to the right decision.
Avoiding problems now makes even more problems later. * Handling problems now makes less problems later. Fear creates more problems than there are.
The purpose of life is amusement, * whether it be God’s amusement or your amusement. Do things that are creative and amusing rather than destructive.
Most bad things are someone’s reaction to other bad things. * All the more reason to do everything possible to keep your reactions under control. Learn as much as you can about everything you can, especially about people.
The one thing even a God cannot do is make another person’s decisions. * Trying to make other people’s decisions is a losing battle.
Aspirin doesn’t cure thoughts, nor does any other drug or medication. *
The rule of three. If something happens once, it’s unique, it may never happen again. If something happens twice, it’s a coincidence, it may never happen again. If something happens a third time it’s repetitive. Pay attention because it will happen again.
© Joseph Belotte, 1996
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